26 Life Lessons
Today, I turn 26. With my quarter-life crisis looming, what better time to look back on what I’ve learned throughout my 26 years? In many ways, I’ve lived a fairly sheltered life. I didn’t have a rocky upbringing, I didn’t get into trouble as a teenager, I didn’t live in student halls, I didn’t go travelling after university… But, I stepped out of my comfort zone the moment I decided to move city and live on my own. I’ve learned more about life – and people – in the past three years than I have throughout my entire life. So, grab a cuppa and let’s reminisce, shall we?
1) Life is hard
Oh, we’re starting there? You bet. There’s no two ways about it, life is bloody difficult. It can be stressful, exhausting and downright, cruel.
2) But, life is what you make it
We have to make the most of the cards we’re dealt. Nobody’s life is perfect, but it’s what we do with it that counts.
3) Some things are outside of your control
This one is a hard pill to swallow, but there’s certain things we just can’t control no matter how hard we try. When you stop trying, you’ll feel so much better for it.
4) People can (and will) change
Just like the seasons, people change. Sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse. But, change is inevitable.
5) That includes me
I’ve undoubtedly changed as a person, particularly in the last few years, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Change is how we grow.
6) Comparing yourself to others gets you nowhere
You will never have the same body or face or life as someone else. Comparing yourself to others will only make you feel inadequate. Your life is your own to live.
7) Friendships are hard work
Like any relationship, friendships take time, effort and compromise. It’s up to you to decide whether it’s worth it.
8) It’s okay to cut ties with toxic people
Life is too short to waste on people who don’t enrich it in some way. Say goodbye to those who don’t deserve to be a part of it.
9) Depression doesn’t discriminate
Depression doesn’t care who you are, what you have, where you’ve been or where you’re going. It can affect anybody.
10) A good night’s sleep can work wonders
Your body needs sleep to function, so don’t deprive yourself of it. Treat yourself to an early night at least once a week and see how much better you feel for it.
11) Never underestimate the power of a cuppa
Things never seem as bad after a good cup of tea. Adding a couple of biscuits never hurt anyone, either…
12) Speaking of, bourbon biscuits are the best
13) There’s more to life than social media
Repeat after me: put the phone down. Nobody will remember how many Twitter followers you had when you’re no longer with us.
14) People will let you down
More often than not, people will disappoint you. They won’t text back; they’ll cancel plans last minute; they’ll stop speaking to you; you name it.
15) People will surprise you, too
But sometimes, people will surprise you in the best way. Cherish those moments.
16) Always eat before you drink
Line that stomach. Nobody wants to be wrecked after two drinks. Better still, eat while you drink – the best of both worlds!
17) Shots are never a good idea
It’s funny how tequila seems like a good idea after a few drinks. It’s not.
18) Never go to the cinema on a first date
Unless you really don’t want to talk to them all night.
19) School is not the best time of your life
Whoever said your school years are the happiest of your life was clearly teetotal.
20) Although, school never really ends
There will always be cliques. There will always be bullies. The difference is you know they don’t matter now.
21) It’s okay to put yourself first
Look after yourself, invest in self-care, listen to your body and mind. No one else will.
22) Life is too short for boring hair
Mix it up a little. Don’t be afraid to try new things and express yourself – it’ll always grow out!
23) You never know what lies around the corner
Life is unpredictable and you never quite know what it’s going to throw at you next. Sometimes things take a turn for the worse, sometimes for the better. Don’t give up.
24) Never do something you don’t want to do
It’s okay to say no. In fact, you should practice saying no to things you don’t want to do. Never, ever feel coerced to do something you’re not comfortable with.
25) Appreciate the little things
It’s easy to get bogged down with the hardships of life and forget the little things that make it all worthwhile. Take some time now and then to remember the things that you make you smile.
26) Time heals
When pain and grief seem all-consuming, remember time is the greatest healer of all.
Until next time,